After long (long) silence…

Ok, clearly I have been too busy BEING one lucky mommy to document being one lucky mommy.  Really, life is good – hectic – but good.

At Uncle L’s urging to post, I am going to try a new approach – at least once weekly updates – even if VERY short “notes from the field.”  I will also try to finally get documented (in longer posts) both the “sleep saga” and the “breasfeeding experiment” from the 1st two years- as I feel those may bring useful information or at least consolation to others.

To recap – I am an over 40 first time mom, with a 2.5 yr old girl, who works a 9-5 job.  The child is currently known as WST (World’s Smartest, Sweetest, Stubbonrest, Snottiest, fill-in-the-S-word-of-your-choice depending on the moment, Toddler). She used to be the Worl’d Cutest Baby (WCB). My partners in this adventure include two dads DaddyO and Daddy N (I am polyamorous) who also work (essentially) 9-5 jobs.  Also important in our lives are Uncle Lamont and Auntie  (part of our polyamorous group). The purpose of this blog is to talk about the cool, nifty, horrible, frustrating, fascinating things about being a mom.

A current snapshot of WST as it has clearly been 8 months since our last post:

  • Over 30 lbs (and mom can still haul her around!), 3 feet tall.  All parts functioning as normal, had ringworm a few months ago, requisite # of colds, and is currently (knock on wood) enjoying a 2 month “well” period.
  • Can wear her hair in quite respectable pony tails (about 6 inches long). When she chooses (“hairbows” are often “ow-y” and rejected. Combs are almost AWAYS rejected. Her hair styling generally looks like she just woke up and mom did nothing with it – ’cause that’s what happened.)
  • Has grown in leaps and bounds both congnitively and linguistically.  According to various development charts – she’s 1 to 1.5 yrs ahead of “average” – for what that’s worth.  Practically, this means that the 2.5 yr old legal negotiating has begun! And so has the daily astonishment that she said that or grasped that (we’ve totally started spelling stuff). She’s about average in math concepts.
  • About average in fine and gross motor skills – some frustration that she can’t draw/write what she wants, but loves to color/paint/chalk/marker, etc.  LOVES to climb and very intrepid. This makes her climbing skills…reason for concern (AH – that’s 20 feet in the air -AAAh!)
  • Generally eating reasonably well for 2.5. Discovered that she is “sensitive” to fresh tomatos – after about 15 seconds her face and hands (and anything else they contacted) are red and her mouth is stinging (tears). A drink, and wash makes symptoms go away in 5 minutes or so (thus this is NOT an allergy, just a ‘sensitivity’).  Overly processed tomato products don’t cause this, but we suspect they may have an effect on the other end.
  • Speaking of the other end, potty training is well under way after a long slow rambling start, plateau, and sudden stop/fall back.  Yesterday she wore panties for 4.5 hours without accident, having one “successful attempt” and then one “close but no cigar.” (We learned that todddlers should sit on potty BEFORE putting hand in warm bath water.)
  • She has been to her first full length film (How to Train Your Dragon) and has several strong television favorites (Sid the Science Kid, Caillou, Bob the Builder, Dragon Tales, Noddy, Dora – almost all PBS or PBS Sprout).  Her TV friends feature heavily in our lives even away from the TV.
  • She has begun to be able to tell us coherent snippets of her day. She grasps yesterday, tomorrow and today, later and before and after. “And then” features strongly in snippets with sequence.
  • Her personality at school has settled to “so smart” and “bossy,” but generally well-behaved at school. Strong-willed is also a phrase I’d use. Sunshine-y too.
  • “You can’t get me,”  “watch this,” “here goes nothing,” and “ready or not here I come,” have all entered our lives.

More small snippets to come – I promise!

From the US National Institute of Health

Older Mothers More Likely Than Younger Mothers To Deliver By Cesarean

Researchers funded by the National Institutes of Health have found that older mothers with normal, full-term pregnancies — particularly first-time older mothers — were more likely to undergo Caesarean delivery than were younger women with similarly low-risk pregnancies.  Read more: http://www.nih.gov/news/pr/mar2007/nichd-08.htm

I am an Older mom – and I delivered by Cesarean because I had 18 hours of labor with only slow progress for the first 12 and no progress in the last 6.  Turns out the World’s Cutest Baby was over 9 lbs AND facing upwards.  No way that baby was coming out normally without endangering ONE or both of us.  The operation was *frighteningly* quick and smooth.  Auntie got to watch it all and reminds me on occasion “I got to see your guts!”  I was shivering uncontrollably at the time and just happy all went well.  Silver lining?  WCB had none of the visible “squishing” effects like a pointy head or reddened face.  Cute from the VERY beginning!